We have different dreams and aspirations and different choices for everything in life, but one thing is for sure, we all die. Regardless of what we think of the afterlife, whether it exists or we go on to another form of life, dying and leaving our beloved ones is an inevitable occurrence.
In the old times, a person’s deceased body end up literally, some feet below the ground in a coffin or in some tribal practice, are mummified as in dried up using a process, which preserves 30 to 50 percent of the body mass and figure and laid to rest in a tomb.
The most popular and common practice of honoring the remains of a loved one is through burial in a cemetery memorial lot. The traditional manner of having the deceased’s remains six feet underground is appropriate for a majority because it is proper that the remains are buried as it is and better remembered as a physical whole, albeit in a casket, by loved ones.
Nowadays, people seem to be open to the cremation process for their deceased loved ones. Some prefer this process than the traditional burial in memorial lots because it gives them the option to bring their deceased remains with them in their homes especially when they move houses. This is an excellent choice for people who are sentimental and prefer that the remains of their loved ones are somewhere close to them, as if they were still physically present in their daily lives.
Since the body is lifeless, the remains in the form of ashes should not be a shuddering matter as it is just the same as it were a corpse. The only difference is that it need not have pallbearers or additional manpower to lay the remains to rest. All it requires is a beautiful urn, and a loving memorial tribute that should be held to commemorate the life of the deceased.
Most memorial services have plans that serve to take care of the grieving family’s needs and their deceased.
Cremation is one of the most popular choices they offer and which many should consider. Some memorial services have the tribute, which the body of the deceased is viewed through a coffin and the cremation takes place after. Another choice is to have the body of the deceased cremated first, finely blended and silted into an urn of the family’s choice and put up for viewing for the family and relatives in the tribute.
This, in essence, is a practical and efficient way of processing the deceased remains. The thought of the body during memorial services adds more grief to family, friends, relatives and loved ones. Sometimes, it may be too much to bear for some people who miss them so much.
In both scenarios, the urn is taken home, but in some instances, the remains of the deceased are scattered over some place, which is sentimental in nature and perhaps very close to the deceased member when he was still living.
Some families try to balance this unconventional way of keeping their loved one’s remains with traditional practice. They purchase columbaries that refer to small crypts that hold urns. These do not take up a lot of space as these are enough to fit a large urn and some memories with it. This is so because some families still want to visit their loved ones in a place befitting for the deceased, albeit located in a shelf along with others.
Cremation is not a welcome idea for some faiths with high regard of the physical body as it was when living. Some believe that the body should be respected even after death, the physical state of the deceased should be as is and mourned and remembered as it is. The fact of having the remains be burned in a furnace with an unforgiving degree of heat is shuddering to some that they may think that the body is in some manner being desecrated in the process.
However, this process gives the family and loved ones more options to commemorate their deceased in any manner they want like having them as a part of their home, bringing their remains wherever they go for sentimental reasons or a more convenient way to bring the remains closer to the places they loved when they were alive by scattering the ashes over a particular place.
With this process, many can have a more open outlook in the afterlife – that what remains is just a shell and that remembering the life their deceased loved one has lived is only what is essential.